Ethical Practice in Somatic Sex Education
Through Somatic Sex Education there is effective help available for people struggling with various challenges around sex and sexuality, and there is the potential for them to develop a sense of wholeness and wellbeing.
Professional training in Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork means that practitioners are taught to practice the profession with honesty, integrity, and competence. Our primary commitment is to the health, well-being, and safety of our clients.
Somatic Sex Education is a safe way for people to explore and heal their sexuality, because we are ethical practitioners who work within clear boundaries and roles.
Members of the SSEA pledge that:
The practitioner’s chief focus and primary ethical responsibility is on their client’s wellbeing.
The practitioner works to support the client in the experience of embodiment and empowered, enthusiastic consent.
When touch is included in Somatic Sex Education it is for the purpose of the client’s learning & growth.
During the session the practitioner is fully and consistently at the service of the client’s personal growth and learning.
The practitioner commits to their own professional development and ongoing self care.
The practitioner is aware of the potential for attraction within the client-practitioner relationship and ensures the focus is always on the client’s growth & learning.
The practitioner practices in a way that is free of narcissistic focus on power, admiration, or sexual gratification.
Entering into a client-practitioner relationship involves an intake process in which limits and boundaries are clearly set out and agreed to.
Somatic Sex Educators practicing as Certified Sexological Bodyworkers have additionally pledged to follow these ethics: Ethical Code
Tips for Clients & Potential Clients
For both virtual and in-person clients I suggest the following:
ensure your body is nourished prior to a session (fed, feeling rested, etc.).
do not arrive under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
my coaching and bodywork sessions are not a substitute for therapy and counselling. Although discussions about trauma, and other personal subject matter might come up, I am not a therapist. I will be able to provide referrals to mental health professionals if required.
take time after the session for aftercare for yourself (drink water, get rest, go for a walk). I will likely check in with you about this during the initial intake of our session.
for clients with disabilities, we can have a discussion prior to sessions about what accessibility needs you require. Everyone deserves access to health and pleasure and I try my best to accommodate you.
visit the Somatic Sex Educators Association Client Checklist for factors that can have an impact on a person’s ability to work effectively with a Somatic Sex Educator.
For Online / Virtual Clients:
ensure you have the technological capabilities for virtual sessions. A good WIFI connection, webcam and microphone are helpful and will ensure less frustration.
ensure you have privacy during your session. If that is not accessible consider using headphones.
ensure there is good lighting so I can see your face.
consider making yourself a cozy nest (blankets, pillows, bolsters, yoga mat etc.)
For In Person Clients:
I only offer one-way (me to you) and only ever directed by you. As I do work with couples, you may book as a couple and practice 2-way touch together.
I do not require the clients to be vaccinated, however, due to the close contact of my work I request all clients to agree to be tested before their in-person session, as close to their session as possible. Rapid or PCR tests are accepted.
I use nitrile gloves and coconut oil for genital touch. If there is a specific lube or oil you would prefer to use instead, please bring it to your session.
I ask for clients to shower right before arriving for their session. If showering is not accessible, I am able to provide that resource.